In the short time that I have been married I have come across a wonderful discovery. Flirting is SO much better after marriage. I am not going to go into details with that thought. If someone had told me that when I was younger I would have looked at them like I looked at my Mother when she randomly entered my room and went "ruff!". Below I have the vows I wrote to Jordan on our wedding day:
"Like every little girl, I would play pretend with my friends. We would imagine our future's, the boys we would date, the Prince Charming that would come and sweep us away, then my friends would play house with their imaginary children. Not me, I would stop and linger over Prince Charming, how we would meet, the clever and witty things he would say that would make me blush, the dates we would go on and how he would romance me. I remember thinking, "I don't want to get married, I want to date forever. Life gets so boring after marriage."
And then I met you and you said many clever and witty things, which I laughed at. You romanced me, took me on dates and told me you loved me. It was my dream come true. But then something happened I didn't expect, I fell in love with you. And I found myself wishing more than anything else to be married to you. For the courting stage to be over so we could start our life together. You are the most genuine person I know, you love life and pursue God and there was never a more eager bride to take your hand and start this journey with you.
Jordan Matthew, I stand here today in white, not because of fashion, or tradition, or because I am pure, but because God is giving me to you today as a gift. May I always be a gift, not a hindrance or a stumbling block. I know that what we are about to vow to is going to be the hardest vow to keep, and so I promise to put Jesus first in our marriage, to love Him more than I'll ever love you, for only then can I truly show you love. I promise to make you laugh as often as possible and to be faithful. To make home a place you run to get to and a place you want to stay. I will care for you, be your helpmate, encourage you in your ministry and stand by you no matter what comes. I give my heart to you, to guard and protect. I love you."
I said those words to my fiance in front of 2 hundred people not knowing what Marriage would be like, excited, expectant, terrified but with a peace that Jordan and I are better together than apart. If I would have known when I was younger just how wonderful marriage is, I would have begged Jordan to marry me when I was 18!
I went with my Family to Lethbridge this past weekend. I was not looking forward to it. I wanted to go to see my brother and sister in law, and my Aunt and Uncle of course and witness my past roommates wedding, but I did not want to be away from Jordan for that long. We have only ever spent one night away from each other since June 18th and I wanted to keep it that way!
I managed fine the first day, but by Saturday I missed my husband and my home and couldn't wait to get back! I went to bed on Saturday night thinking- One more night!
Around 12:30 I woke up by someone coming in the front door (I was sleeping on the couch) and immediately knew who it was but couldn't believe it! My husband pounced on me and I have never been so excited to see him. It is a 3 hour drive from Trochu to Lethbridge and Jordan had to teach Sunday School that morning. As we fell asleep that night all cuddled up he said "We've still only slept one night apart." Then away he went at 6:30am to drive back.
For Jordan to show his love in such a way kept me grinning all day long and even more excited to see him when I got back. I know that we are still Newly Wed's and the full pressures of marriage haven't hit us yet, that we will have days, weeks, months and even years of hard times. But one thing I do know is, that I will love this man through everything because of his selfless love for me. I can't believe how blessed I am!
No matter where you are in life, happily married, newly divorced, single, dating, engaged...I want you to hold on to this truth as I do- God wants your heart. He will love you through everything, and will be beside you through out your life. Jordan's act of love is an example of what Jesus will do for you and does for you everyday.
I pray that you know his love today in an active real way and can't help but grin!
2 Corinthians 13:14
May the GRACE of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.
"Like every little girl, I would play pretend with my friends. We would imagine our future's, the boys we would date, the Prince Charming that would come and sweep us away, then my friends would play house with their imaginary children. Not me, I would stop and linger over Prince Charming, how we would meet, the clever and witty things he would say that would make me blush, the dates we would go on and how he would romance me. I remember thinking, "I don't want to get married, I want to date forever. Life gets so boring after marriage."
And then I met you and you said many clever and witty things, which I laughed at. You romanced me, took me on dates and told me you loved me. It was my dream come true. But then something happened I didn't expect, I fell in love with you. And I found myself wishing more than anything else to be married to you. For the courting stage to be over so we could start our life together. You are the most genuine person I know, you love life and pursue God and there was never a more eager bride to take your hand and start this journey with you.
Jordan Matthew, I stand here today in white, not because of fashion, or tradition, or because I am pure, but because God is giving me to you today as a gift. May I always be a gift, not a hindrance or a stumbling block. I know that what we are about to vow to is going to be the hardest vow to keep, and so I promise to put Jesus first in our marriage, to love Him more than I'll ever love you, for only then can I truly show you love. I promise to make you laugh as often as possible and to be faithful. To make home a place you run to get to and a place you want to stay. I will care for you, be your helpmate, encourage you in your ministry and stand by you no matter what comes. I give my heart to you, to guard and protect. I love you."
I said those words to my fiance in front of 2 hundred people not knowing what Marriage would be like, excited, expectant, terrified but with a peace that Jordan and I are better together than apart. If I would have known when I was younger just how wonderful marriage is, I would have begged Jordan to marry me when I was 18!
I went with my Family to Lethbridge this past weekend. I was not looking forward to it. I wanted to go to see my brother and sister in law, and my Aunt and Uncle of course and witness my past roommates wedding, but I did not want to be away from Jordan for that long. We have only ever spent one night away from each other since June 18th and I wanted to keep it that way!
I managed fine the first day, but by Saturday I missed my husband and my home and couldn't wait to get back! I went to bed on Saturday night thinking- One more night!
Around 12:30 I woke up by someone coming in the front door (I was sleeping on the couch) and immediately knew who it was but couldn't believe it! My husband pounced on me and I have never been so excited to see him. It is a 3 hour drive from Trochu to Lethbridge and Jordan had to teach Sunday School that morning. As we fell asleep that night all cuddled up he said "We've still only slept one night apart." Then away he went at 6:30am to drive back.
For Jordan to show his love in such a way kept me grinning all day long and even more excited to see him when I got back. I know that we are still Newly Wed's and the full pressures of marriage haven't hit us yet, that we will have days, weeks, months and even years of hard times. But one thing I do know is, that I will love this man through everything because of his selfless love for me. I can't believe how blessed I am!
No matter where you are in life, happily married, newly divorced, single, dating, engaged...I want you to hold on to this truth as I do- God wants your heart. He will love you through everything, and will be beside you through out your life. Jordan's act of love is an example of what Jesus will do for you and does for you everyday.
I pray that you know his love today in an active real way and can't help but grin!
2 Corinthians 13:14
May the GRACE of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all.
"Perfect love expels all fear..." (1 John 4;18) Isn't it great how God's love is reflected through our godly husbands? It's an enabling love that rids us of fear. And the great part is that it keeps getting better. You're still in your first year...it doubles in your second year and triples in the third...and the love just keeps on growing. :)
ReplyDeleteI still maintain that my brother is a schmuck. But a sweet schmuck. :)
...and by "schmuck," I mean a head-over-heels-in-love fool whose romantic maneuvers ooze ridiculous amounts of sweetness.
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